“I used to think I was introverted because I enjoyed being alone. But it turns out, I really liked being at peace with myself and my surroundings and I am extremely extroverted with people who bring me comfort and happiness.”

Can you say Ambivert? Truth is, as we’ve become more self-aware in our growth journeys, we’ve begun to question ourselves more. Exploring our personalities, ideals, strengths and weaknesses is at the forefront of our minds right? So, which one are we? An Extrovert, an Introvert, or a combination of both? And what does it actually mean?

This has been addressed quite frequently lately. Whether as a conversation starter or in the attempt to seek others’understanding for our socially awkward behaviors. Nonetheless, I feel this is something we need to explore. Aristotle said it best, “knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

I’ve recently connected with a wonderful and loving soul by the name of A.J. Garcia. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Qualified Supervisor in the state of Florida. A.J. describes what it means to be an extrovert and introvert so eloquently. Check it out:

“Most people hear the words “introvert” and “extrovert” and think it relates to social preference, or how much someone enjoys interacting with others. In reality, this understanding couldn’t be more wrong.

Few people know what the true definitions of “introvert” and “extrovert” really are. They have nothing to do with social desire or enjoyment.

Instead of signifying one’s social preference, these terms refer to how energy is built.

An extrovert is recharged, or energized, by being around people. These similar social engagements, while likely enjoyed by the introvert, feels draining. They come away feeling exhausted and in need of alone time in order to refill their energy level.

The introvert spends quality, quiet time by themselves (or perhaps with another they are completely comfortable with) in order for their energy to be refreshed. Alone time, however, is draining for the extrovert. As a result, they find the need to be surrounded by others in order to strengthen their energy level.

Knowing how your energy is built and spent is important; it allows you to care for yourself well and safeguard your limitations.

But what if you’re in a relationship with someone who recharges in a different way than you?

Make sure to talk about what fuels and drains your energy levels. Don’t assume or expect your significant other needs what you do. (Introverts, it’s not a bad sign when your partner would rather have a group date than spend a quiet night at home.)

Most importantly, allow them the opportunity to rebuild their energy in the way they need. (Don’t take it personally, extroverts, when your introverted loved one seeks time alone.)

The cycle of ebbing and refreshing energy is a constant, daily process. One that, with knowledge and awareness, will benefit yourself and your relationships.“A.J. Garcia, MA, LMFT, QCS

(September 12, 2023 https://thrivecounsel.com/blog/2023-09-12/what-does-it-really-mean-to-be-an-introvert-or-extrovert/ )

In the words of our dearly beloved Beyonce, “ENERGY!” There it is folks. There’s so much potential in unearthing our individual journeys. How else are we going to be able to practice proper self-care and understand others better? Ultimately the goal is to bring joy to ourselves and then to the world.

“One must know oneself. If this does not serve to discover truth, it at least serves as a rule of life, and there is nothing better.”–Blaise Pascal.

As always, I hope this message has encouraged you. To live your life to the best of your ability. To shine brighter each day and be your best self.  Yours truly. – Lin Green